Wedding Guest Woes – 8 Complaints You Don’t Want Posted on Facebook
Friday, December 8, 2017
1. A Bad Date - No, we don’t mean their unfortunate choice of companion for the event. We’re talking about a wedding that occurs on Christmas Day, Super Bowl, or some other major event. As you walk down the aisle, you want all eyes on you, not their phones as they’re watching the big game.
2. One Date Too Many - Suppose you invite a friend who brings her new boyfriend who just happens to be an old flame? Or your best friend and his wife attend – with their four children when you wanted an adults-only celebration? If you want to celebrate your special day with the right people, make sure your invitations are clear. Write the names of the guests you want to invite on the response card and have a box for them to check off for each "will attend" or "will not attend."
3. A Date Too Hot…or Too Cold - You’ve planned an outdoor wedding that should take place on a mild day, but Mother Nature hits you with 85 degree temperatures or freezing rain and snow. But you’re in good shape because you had a backup plan, perhaps programs that doubled as fans or a heated tent. Perhaps you even had an indoor location nearby to get everyone out of the weather and into the mood for a beautiful ceremony.
4. The Never-Ending Story - Everyone will be happy to see you proclaiming your love and tying the knot (except maybe the old flame in #2). But their joy will wane if the ceremony runs long. Try to keep the nuptials to 30 minutes or less. Similarly, keep the toasts from stretching into novels. Let the toastees know in advance that something brief is appreciated. For those who are uncomfortable speaking in front of crowds, suggest that they use a 5 x 7 card to jot down their key thoughts.
5. The Long and Winding Road - If your wedding and reception are in different venues, try to keep the travel time to a minimum. Guests who spend the day traveling to and from different venues will end up tired and stressed. You’ll also prevent your drivers from kicking back and relaxing with some cocktails, so do your best to minimize the amount of travel required. If you do have multiple locations then offer up a shuttle service to remove the hassle of parking and to allow guests to enjoy some drinks throughout the night.
6. The Unexpected Bend in the Road - It’s important to manage the expectations of your guests and give them a clear sense of what to expect at your wedding. If the ceremony will be held indoors, be sure to list that on the invitation so that guests can dress appropriately. If you’re only having hors d’oeuvres at your reception, mention that on your invitation as well. You don’t want guests to show up expecting a full dinner and then going home hungry.
7. The Vanishing Bride and Groom - Your guests want to personally congratulate you on your big day, and many of them have traveled a far distance. You don’t want them to only see you once when you walk down the aisle. Make time to visit with each one of your guests. Consider skipping the receiving line and instead go table to table to thank each person for coming. Once your big day is over, don’t forget thank-you notes. Guests spent time and money to celebrate with you and give you a special gift. Take the time to recognize their generosity by writing personal, meaningful thank-you notes that are sent in a timely fashion.
8. The Food They Wished Would Vanish - No bride wants guests complaining about the food. Arrange for a food tasting before you plan your menu. Ask about food allergies or dietary requirements ahead of time. It's also important to make sure they don't run out of food at the cocktail hour.
If you’re planning a Cincinnati wedding, we can help you avoid some of these problems. Contact Cincinnati Catering to plan a menu and select a venue that’ll leave your guests with nothing but good things to say about your special day.